this post has been banging around in my head for a week now and i think i have my thoughts in order enough to say what i want. i want to talk a little about friendships. specifically friendships with other women. if you know me personally, you probably know i don’t have lots of close girlfriends. i never have been a woman that surrounds herself with other women; i’ve always felt more comfortable around men. maybe it is because i was a bit of a tomboy growing up and i feel more comfortable conversing about “guy” things. whatever it is, i have over the past few years been consciously cultivating friendships with a few women. soul sisters that understand and accept one another unconditionally.
these women have been with me and gotten me through some of the hardest and most joyful times in my life: my divorce, marriage, birth of the twins and many jobs come and gone. they are my rocks and sometimes the reason i roll. they are never afraid to push me when i need it, hand me a tissue, tell me the truth and laugh at the silly things in life.
some of my friends have been going through some tough things of their own lately and i have been thinking about how women can succeed in life, especially when they have a village of soul sisters to lift them up. and how i see a lot of stumbling blocks in our way.
sometimes i see blogs that disparage women for being “pinterest moms” and “overachieving” or “lazy” or “working moms” or “stay-at-home moms.” see what i’m getting at? it feels like women are being set up for failure. maybe this is the reason i’ve never had a lot of girlfriends. there seems to be a lot of drama being created by the media and these bloggers and, maybe, i bought into that…for a while.
but not anymore. i decided a few years ago to really work on my relationships with my lady friends. and i’m so glad i did. i still think there is drama out there, but i choose to surround myself with like-minded women, who also don’t buy into the drama and bullshit. we are women who have busy enough lives that we don’t stir up any extra insanity. we tell the truth – sometimes painfully. we support one another in our endeavors and our trials. we are different and talented and love and celebrate those differences and talents. we lift one another up and encourage instead of tearing one another down. i am so thankful for the women in my life because they are rare gems. shining lights who brighten the world with their presence.
i am endeavoring to be a better friend and it is something i do not take lightly and it is something i work on every day. they say that a rising tide raises all ships. i believe this is true and want to be a part of that rising tide for the women in my life.